High School?

My son has recently started high school. He is a nervous child, but seemed to settle in straight away. However, in the last two days he has been sent home sick and today cried before going. He assures me he is not being picked on and that he likes the school and he doesn't know why he is feeling like this. Anyone any ideas?

High School?
butterflies





he is in a strange new place, and its upsetting. when i was growing up, i went to five elementary school, three junior high schools. my mother finally settled down when i was 13 yrs old, and i went to only one high school...that was strange, four years in the same school? after the first year, i was ready to leave, after two years, i was ready to leave! then came three years...i could not believe it when she made me go again for fourth year, we were still in the same town, very disturbing to me, i was so use to moving all the time, different schools all the time, then all of a sudden, one school for four years...that was some thing.





any way, be patient with him, he is just nervous, and its called "butterflies" he will get over it, sooner or later :)
Reply:Maybe something that seemed embarrassing to him happened. Maybe he was called on to answer something and gave an answer that someone else interpreted different. Maybe they have started calling him something. It could be just a subject or project he's not familiar with or is afraid of getting paired with another person he doesn't like. SO many things it could be. Could be a girl....*S* Just bolster his self esteem and keep telling him what a wonderful son and person he's turned out to be and why he should be proud of himself. This should pass in a week or two. If not then I'd speak to a teacher or two. Keep in mind though that at that age...speaking to a teacher could make it worse. Rely on your child and your instincts. Best of luck.
Reply:I would suggest that he is probably being bullied . A difficult situation to deal with and sometimes rushing in could make things worse


The school should have a guidance , or form teacher that you could make an appointment to see and discuss your sons apparent upset .


I hope you can get to the bottom of this as it can affect your sons future
Reply:I think it would be a good idea to have a chat with his form teacher on the phone - s/he may be able to find out what's wrong, and can also ask colleagues to keep a discreet eye on him. Make sure you check back with him/her regularly until your son seems happier.
Reply:he could be overwhelmed by the whole new experience of secondary school.. this is where they find there independence. there more on their own... have to get use to going to five different lesson everyday.. the school is full of 500 more children than a primary.. so his probably finding it hard to find his feet.. and all of this could just be very over whelming for him, and he just doesn't know how to handle the situation.





speak with his teachers.. and form tutor to see how they see him coping in school.


he may even need a councillor, just to speak things through with them about the way his feeling.
Reply:Maybe it is just the stress of adjusting to a new environment.
Reply:he's being bullied... better go to the school when your son least expect it...lunch time would be a good time but dont tell ur son
Reply:ask his teachers whats going on, or any of his friends, because they might know whats the problem.





it may be that someone has been bullying him..
Reply:oh my son got punished 4 doin that so dont do that!!
Reply:i would talk to the teachers....in confidentiality...dont go to the school when he least expects it...that would get him into more trouble if he already is in it...





be careful. ask him to be honest with you if he doesnt tell you then talk to the teachers like i said before...





i can only think its bullying...*however you spell that...
Reply:ive always been like that even though i enjoy school i still dread going.





(check he's still hanging with his friends, although i usually start with a group of friends i usually dont end up staying in a group because we have NOTHING incomon (im wierd for my age)





Also if he's being bullied chances are they said "tell anyone and we'll use YOU as the basketball. Also it could be a project due he's trying to avoid, even a test
Reply:There are so many possibilities it's hard to nail down one without more information. Here's two ideas: Generalized Anxiety Disorder or Social Anxiety Disorder. Some of these mood disorder develop during adolescence, and so these might account for his troubles. See here:





http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/an...





Of course,without knowing more any of these might be a stretch. There could be MANY other possibilities, perhaps as simple as trouble with a bully. I'd suggest talking to his teachers and school nurse to find out just what his "illness" is. If you suspect anxiety, you should look into some counseling and possibly medication.





Best of luck to you both.
Reply:Girls.
Reply:He is an attention seeker or he is over reacting or he is in shock
Reply:Well one it could be that he is being picked on and to embarrassed to say or worried that if he tells you, you will go down the school which would also embarrass him. it could also be depression of some sort and maybe he really does not understand why he is feeling like it all you can do is let him know you are they for him and he can trust you eventually he will tell you when he is ready.
Reply:Ah! Meybe the friends?? The friends beat him maybe?? It's ok, you should not worried aobut his High School. He's a grown up boy!!

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